22 Aug Reality …. Can Be a Bummer
“The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sail.” – William Arthur Ward
Here’s another in the series of tips offered to help make sure you ultimately win your career.
Hard fact – your corporate life is not always going to break your way.
By that I mean – that promotion you deserved might go to someone else; the sale you knew was yours might slip over to a competitor; the corner office someone promised you just might be put on hold; and the big bonus that all indicators suggested you should have been paid – well, sometimes it’s not going to happen the way you planned.
Welcome to reality.
I talk a lot about the events that can short circuit a career. One of them takes place when the employee crosses over a line that takes them from empowered to victim. And the cause can be as simple as the situations I just described.
Circumstances conspire against you – and the reaction puts in play the tick tock that leads many to fall back on the blame game.
“I did everything right – and they screwed me.”
I call this the career line of demarcation. Once you start crossing it – it gets easier and easier to concede ownership in your future. Said another way – it can quickly become a game of “us and they.”
I’ve been there a few times myself.
Sometimes it feels good to use the inequities of the corporate world to give birth to a malignancy that can cripple – the victim’s mentality. That’s the finger pointing that allows us to closely examine every aspect of the environment that surrounds us – and blame it for our failures – rather than examine ourselves.
Here is a reality I encourage all those who are truly serious about winning their career to consider.
It has never been completely fair out there. It will never be completely fair. Get used to it.
It wasn’t for the person that came before you either.
Your challenge is not in keeping a scorecard of the eccentricities and the imbalances that surround you – it is in forging a path to ensure you win your career – even when the winds don’t flow with you but against you.
The winners get up when they’re knocked down by circumstances beyond their control. The losers stay down and blame the referee, the officials, the ring, the crowd, and the guy that works the ticket booth too.
If you walk into the corporate world expecting you’ve landed in the land of meritocracy – good luck.
If – on the other hand – you’re prepared to accept the imperfections and are committed to winning anyway then you are far ahead of the masses.
It takes a bit of toughness to take on full accountability for yourself in an imperfect world – it’s usually too easy to use those imperfections to justify our own failures.
You’ll have only one constant in your journey – one cardinal point you will be able to set your sights on. That’s the person you look at in the mirror every morning.
Winners constantly look first at them selves and ask the tough questions that force them to adapt – persevere – overcome.
Losers ask the tough questions only of others and ask, “Why not me?”